Ben Sira, that wise sage of old, offers us a beautiful, simple sentiment in his writings (Ben Sira 26:1-2): "A valiant wife is satisfying to her husband; and he will spend the years of his life in joys. A good wife is a good gift, given to the lap of those who revere God.”
Isn't that lovely? It's not about grand gestures or fairytale perfection. It speaks to the deep contentment that comes from a loving partnership. The Hebrew here uses the term "eshet chayil" for "valiant wife." Chayil – it's a word that conjures up strength, capability, even courage. This isn’t just about being a good spouse; it’s about being a powerhouse of support and love. It's about bringing vitality and joy into a marriage.
And the idea of a wife as a "good gift"? It's such a beautiful way to frame it. A gift "given to the lap of those who revere God." It suggests that these blessings are intertwined with our connection to something greater than ourselves. That a good marriage, a loving partnership, is in some ways a divine gift.
Now, Ben Sira also offers a dose of practical wisdom, a reminder to stay grounded in the present. He says (Ben Sira 30:22): “Do not suffer from tomorrow’s trouble, as you do not know what a day will bring.”
How often do we get caught up in worrying about what might happen? We borrow trouble from tomorrow, anxieties that may never even materialize. Ben Sira reminds us to focus on the here and now, to appreciate the good things we have today, especially the gift of a loving partner.
These words from Ben Sira aren’t just quaint sayings from a bygone era. They offer us timeless insights into what truly matters in life: cherishing our relationships and living in the present moment. They remind us that the greatest treasures are often the simplest ones: love, connection, and the ability to find joy in each day.
So, what are you waiting for? Take a deep breath, appreciate the blessings you have, and maybe give your loved one an extra squeeze today. After all, as Ben Sira reminds us, life is a gift to be cherished, one day at a time.