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Asmodeus Killed Seven Grooms Before Tobiah Arrived

The maids would not call her Sarah. They called her Trouble. Seven wedding nights had ended with a body, and none of them were hers.

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Table of Contents
  1. Seven Mornings With a Body
  2. Sarah Would Not Hang Herself
  3. The Fish Smoke Drove Him Out
  4. The Angel Who Never Ate
  5. The Same King Walked in Chains

The eighth grave was already measured in the yard. Reuel had learned the length.

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Seven Mornings With a Body

Sarah, daughter of Reuel of Ecbatana in Media, had been given to seven husbands. None of them had approached her after the way of all the earth. Asmodeus, king of the demons, killed each one before the marriage was a marriage. Seven grooms. Seven mornings with a body to explain.

The maidservants used it. They said to her face, "It is not right to call you Sarah. Call you Zarah, Trouble. You have been given to seven husbands and not one lasted the night. Why do you kill your husbands? It would be better for your father if you died, so he would not have to see a son or a daughter from you."

She had not lifted a hand. A demon had claimed her and could not possess her, so he killed anyone who came near.

Sarah Would Not Hang Herself

She went up to her father's upper room and wept three days. She thought of the rope. Then she thought of her father, who had no other child, and she would not put that grief on him.

She prayed instead. She told God she was pure. She named the accusations. She said, "Either take me away, or have regard for me and pity me, and let me hear reproach no more."

Seven men were dead in her wedding chamber. The house held her accountable for all seven. She asked to be removed from the house, or to be seen in it.

The Fish Smoke Drove Him Out

That same day, in Nineveh, Tobit's son Tobiah was packing for Media to collect a debt. An angel walked with him in a man's clothes and called himself Azariah. His name was Raphael.

On the Tigris a fish struck at Tobiah's foot. Raphael told him to keep the heart and the liver. He told him about Sarah daughter of Reuel. He told him to marry her. He told him the smoke of that fish would drive the demon out.

Tobiah arrived. He married her. On the wedding night he laid the heart and liver on the incense pan. The smell filled the room. Asmodeus fled as far as Egypt. Raphael followed and bound him there.

In the morning Reuel went out with a spade. The eighth grave stayed empty. His daughter was alive. Her husband was alive. The king of the shedim (שדים), the demons, was gone from the chamber.

The Angel Who Never Ate

When the debt was collected and the household had stopped shaking, Raphael spoke.

"Peace be unto you. Fear not. Bless the Lord for these great and wonderful things which he hath done unto you. All the time I was with you, you saw me eat and drink. I did neither. Write these things in a book. Let me go to the God who sent me."

They sent him away. He went up to heaven and appeared no more to Tobi and his son. The fish smoke had been enough. The Name behind the smoke was the thing Asmodeus could not bear.

The Same King Walked in Chains

Years later Solomon needed that king of demons for the Temple. He sent Benaiah son of Jehoiada with a chain, a ring engraved with the Name, a bundle of wool, and a skin of wine.

Benaiah drained Asmodeus's well from below, plugged the hole with wool, and poured wine in from above. The demon came down from heaven thirsty, quoted the verses against wine to keep himself from the cup, then drank until he slept. Benaiah dropped the chain on his neck.

"The Name of thy Lord is upon thee."

On the road to Jerusalem Asmodeus uprooted a palm, knocked a house over, and, turned aside from a poor woman's hut, broke a bone in himself and asked, "Is it not written, 'A soft tongue breaketh the bone?'" He set a blind man on the right path. He wept when a wedding party passed.

The same creature who had made seven weddings into funerals wept at a wedding he did not own, walking in a chain toward a king.


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Book of Tobit 3:2Book of Tobit

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.Sefaria-hosted English translation · CC-BY

Being a young woman, full of hope and dreams, ready to build a life with someone you love. Now Sarah, the daughter of Reuel, living in Agbatanis (Ecbatana) in Media, faced a horrifying reality: each of her seven husbands died on their wedding night, before their marriage could ever be consummated.

It’s no wonder her own father’s maidservants mocked her relentlessly. They cruelly renamed her "Zarah" meaning "trouble." "It is not meet to call thee Sarah, but Zarah," they taunted, a constant reminder of her perceived curse. The Book of Tobit 3:8 says, "It would be good for thy parents that thou shouldest die for them, and that they see not of thee either son or daughter for ever." Harsh words.

What was causing this horrific string of deaths? It wasn’t just bad luck. A demon named Asmodeus, the king of demons, was responsible. He was killing each husband before they could consummate the marriage. But why? The Book of Tobit doesn't tell us in this chapter, but we know that there's something supernatural at play here.

Think about the weight of that accusation. Sarah wasn't just grieving the loss of seven husbands; she was also being blamed for their deaths. "Why dost thou kill thine husbands, and beat us because of this evil matter?" one of the maids asks. Accusations of being cursed, of bringing misfortune upon everyone around her, would be crushing.

Sarah's story is a stark reminder of the power of societal pressure and the cruelty that can arise from fear and misunderstanding. It’s easy to judge and condemn when we don’t understand the full picture.

How often do we jump to conclusions about others based on limited information? How often do we blame the victim instead of seeking to understand the root cause of their suffering?

Sarah's story isn't just a tale from an ancient text. It's a mirror reflecting our own capacity for both compassion and cruelty. And as we'll see, it's also a story of resilience, faith, and the hope for redemption, even in the darkest of times.

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Legends of the Jews 5:132Legends of the Jews

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.The Legends of the Jews by Louis Ginzberg (1909) · Public Domain

Solomon needed help, immense supernatural help, and he knew just where to find it.

The task of capturing Asmodeus fell to Benaiah, son of Jehoiada, Solomon’s most trusted and valiant servant. This wasn't your average "go get the milk" errand. Benaiah was equipped with some rather unusual tools: a chain engraved with the Shem HaMephorash, the explicit Name of God; a ring bearing the same sacred inscription; a bundle of wool; and a skin full of wine. An odd shopping list. Benaiah found Asmodeus’s usual watering hole – a well. Cleverly, he bored a hole from below to drain the water, plugged it with the wool, and then filled the well with wine. Imagine Asmodeus's surprise when he came down from heaven, expecting a refreshing drink of water, only to find… Cabernet Sauvignon?

At first, Asmodeus hesitated. According to Ginzberg’s retelling in Legends of the Jews, he even quoted Bible verses railing against the evils of wine, trying to bolster his resolve. But thirst, as they say, is a powerful thing. He succumbed, drank deeply, and fell into a stupor.

That's when Benaiah sprang into action. Hiding in a tree, he watched until Asmodeus was completely out, then leaped down and chained the demon's neck. When Asmodeus woke and tried to break free, Benaiah simply invoked the power of the Name: "The Name of thy Lord is upon thee!" And just like that, the mighty Asmodeus was subdued.

But the journey back to Solomon was anything but smooth. Asmodeus, though captive, still possessed immense power. He brushed against a palm tree, and it was uprooted. He bumped into a house, and it crumbled. When a poor woman pleaded with Benaiah to steer the demon away from her hut, Asmodeus begrudgingly obeyed but broke one of her bones in the process. "Is it not written," he quipped, with a grim sort of humor, "'A soft tongue breaketh the bone?'" (Proverbs 25:15).

The Zohar paints a vivid picture of demons having a complex, almost paradoxical nature. We see glimpses of this complexity in Asmodeus's actions. He guided a blind man back onto the right path and showed similar kindness to a drunkard. Yet, he wept when he saw a wedding procession pass by and laughed at a man ordering shoes to last seven years and at a magician performing tricks. What are we to make of these strange reactions?

The Talmud (Gittin 68a-b) expands on this, detailing Asmodeus's eventual assistance in building the Temple, revealing secrets of construction known only to demons.

Perhaps his tears at the wedding stemmed from an understanding of the fleeting nature of happiness, or maybe envy at the joy he could never experience. His laughter at the shoemaker and the magician? Perhaps he saw the futility in their long-term plans and shallow deceptions, knowing the grand cosmic scheme in ways humans couldn't.

Asmodeus's story, as we find it in Midrash Rabbah, isn’t just about capturing a demon. It's about the complexities of good and evil, the blurry lines between wisdom and foolishness, and the surprising places where we might find help, even from those we least expect. It also reminds us that even the mightiest can be brought low by simple human desires… like a really good glass of wine.

What do you think? Does this story suggest that even demons have a role to play in the divine plan, or is it simply a cautionary tale about the dangers of unchecked power?

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Book of Tobit 12:4Book of Tobit

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.Sefaria-hosted English translation · CC-BY

The Book of Tobit, a beautiful story nestled within the Apocrypha, gives us just that kind of moment. It's a story filled with faith, healing, and a hidden angel in disguise.

We arrive at chapter 12. Tobit, who's been blind, has had his sight miraculously restored. His son, Tobiyyah, has returned safely from a long journey, and with a new wife, Sarah. And the faithful companion who guided Tobiyyah, a man named Azarias, is about to reveal his true identity.

Suddenly, Azarias speaks, and the air crackles with revelation: "Peace be unto you; fear not; bless the Lord for these great and wonderful things which he hath done unto you." It’s a moment of profound gratitude, a recognition of the divine hand in their lives. But then comes the kicker.

"Now as to myself," Azarias continues, "all the time I was with you ye saw me eat and drink, for so it appeared to your eyes, yet I did neither eat nor drink."

The man who shared their meals, their journey, their very lives, was not who they thought he was. He was an angel, a messenger of God. He only appeared to eat and drink. What a thought!

He then gives them a command, a task that echoes through time to us: "Now therefore write you all these things in a book, and it shall be for a witness between you and your God all the days of your lives, and this thing shall be for a sign and a witness amongst all generations." This isn't just a story for them, or even just for their time.

"And bless the Lord, and praise the remembrance of his holiness," he urges. The angel, now revealed as Raphael, yes, that Raphael, is about to depart. His mission is complete.

"And now let me go, and I will go to the God who sent me to you." With those words, they send him away, their hearts overflowing with gratitude. "So they sent him away, and blessed the Lord for all this. And the angel of the Lord went up to heaven, and appeared no more to Tobi and his son Tobiyyah."

Just like that, he's gone. Vanished into the heavens, leaving behind a family forever changed by his presence.

What does this brief passage, this incredible moment, leave us with? It encourages us to look closer, to be grateful for the help we receive, and to remember that even in our darkest moments, we might be closer to the miraculous than we think.

And perhaps most importantly, it's a call to share our stories, to write them down, to pass them on, so that future generations can also witness the enduring power of faith and the unwavering love of God. Because who knows? Maybe, just maybe, an angel walked with you today, too.

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