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Absalom Weighed His Hair Every Shabbat Eve and It Killed Him

The Mekhilta records that Absalom cut and weighed his hair every Shabbat eve. That same hair caught in a tree and held him there for Joab.

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Table of Contents
  1. The Most Beautiful Man in Israel
  2. The Custom of Friday Preparation
  3. The Tree That Received Him
  4. What Rabbi Meir Wrote in the Margin

The Most Beautiful Man in Israel

The Bible does not usually pause to describe physical beauty, but with Absalom it pauses. "From the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no blemish in him" (2 Samuel 14:25). He is the most beautiful man in all of Israel. The text adds, as if it cannot quite leave the subject, that his hair was his most remarkable feature: he cut it only once a year, and when it was cut it weighed two hundred shekels by the king's weight. This is a lot of hair. The tradition took note.

The Mekhilta DeRabbi Yishmael, compiled in the second century, preserves a tradition attributed to Rebbi, Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi, the compiler of the Mishnah, that adds a detail the plain text of Samuel does not contain. It is a detail that completes the arc between the beauty and the death in a way that the plain text leaves open.

The Custom of Friday Preparation

Rebbi teaches that Absalom did not cut his hair once a year. He cut it every Shabbat eve. This was the custom of princes, the proper preparation of royalty for the holiness of the Sabbath. Princes set their tables, lit their candles, and shaved before Shabbat because Shabbat deserved the best of them. Absalom, a prince, the most beautiful of David's sons and the one most certain he would eventually be king, observed this custom.

His hair grew so fast and so thick that it required weekly attention. And after each cutting, he weighed what had been removed. Every week, the same ritual: the hair falls, the scales are brought out, the weight is measured. What the Mekhilta does not say directly but implies through the act of weighing is that Absalom knew the number. He tracked it. His hair's weight was information he kept. It was among the facts about himself that he considered worth knowing.

The Tree That Received Him

Absalom's rebellion fails at the forest of Ephraim. The battle goes against him, and he is riding his mule in flight when his head catches in the branches of a great oak. The mule keeps moving. He hangs in the tree, between heaven and earth, unable to get up or down, until Joab finds him and drives three spears through his chest. The death is not clean. The beauty that distinguished him hangs tangled in the wood until the man inside it is dead.

The Mekhilta connects what happened in the tree to what happened every Friday. Absalom's hair, which he weighed with such attention every Shabbat eve, is the instrument of his death. The same hair. The same weight he kept track of every week. The same abundance that was his signature pride. The tree did not reach up and grab him. His own hair, the thing he most tended and most measured, wrapped itself around a branch and held him for Joab to find.

What Rabbi Meir Wrote in the Margin

The Mekhilta preserves a tradition about Rabbi Meir, the great second-century sage, who wrote in his Torah scroll opposite the words "and it was very good" at the end of the sixth day of creation the words "and death is good." This tradition appears alongside the Absalom material, and the juxtaposition is not accidental.

Creation is very good. Death is part of what is very good. Absalom's death by his own hair is part of what is very good in the sense that Rabbi Meir meant it: the system works. The thing that kills you is not external bad luck. It is the internal substance of who you were and how you lived. Absalom's hair killed Absalom. The most beautiful man in Israel was killed by his most beautiful feature, weighed every Friday with careful hands, tracked and treasured and in the end inescapable.

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Mekhilta Tractate Shirah 2:14Mekhilta DeRabbi Yishmael

Absalom, the handsome prince who rebelled against his own father King David, was famous throughout Israel for one thing above all else: his magnificent hair. The Mekhilta preserves a tradition from Rebbi (Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi) that adds a remarkable detail about this vanity.

Rebbi teaches that Absalom shaved every Sabbath eve. This was not ordinary grooming, it was the custom of princes and royalty, who would prepare their appearance before each Shabbat (the Sabbath) with particular care. Absalom's hair grew so thick and luxurious that it required weekly trimming. He weighed the cuttings each time, and the weight was legendary. His hair became his signature, the feature that set him apart and drew admiration from every corner of the kingdom.

What happened in the end? The very thing that Absalom gloried in became the instrument of his destruction. When he fled from David's forces on a mule, his hair caught in the branches of a great oak tree. The text records: "And Absalom was encountered by David's servants, and Absalom was riding on a mule" (2 Samuel 18:9). And he was undone by his hair and killed.

The Mekhilta uses Absalom's story to reinforce the principle of measure-for-measure justice. The hair he groomed with such pride every week, the hair that was his glory and his vanity, became the trap that held him suspended between heaven and earth while Joab drove three spears through his heart. God's justice arrived through the very thing Absalom cherished most.

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Legends of the Jews 4:64Legends of the Jews

He met a tragic end, caught by his hair in a tree while fleeing battle. But the story doesn't end there. According to Legends of the Jews, Absalom died childless. All his children, his three sons and his daughter, had perished before him. Why? A rather harsh punishment, it's said, for setting fire to Joab's field of grain. Imagine, a whole lineage cut short for an act of vengeance.

What about David himself? Did his sins go unpunished?

The death of Absalom, devastating as it was, wasn’t enough to fully atone for David’s own transgressions. The Zohar, that foundational text of Jewish mysticism, hints at the heavy burden of sin. God, in a rather direct conversation with David, lays it all out. "How much longer shall this sin be hidden in thy hand and remain unatoned?" Ouch.

Think about the weight of that question. God reminds David of the destruction of Nob, a priestly city, all because of him. He brings up Doeg the Edomite, cast out from the community of the righteous, because of David. And then, the ultimate tragedy: Saul and his sons, slain. All linked, in some way, back to David's actions.

God then presents David with a stark choice. "What dost thou desire now--that thy house should perish, or that thou thyself shouldst be delivered into the hands of thine enemies?" Talk about a rock and a hard place! David, faced with this terrible ultimatum, chose the latter. He chose personal suffering over the destruction of his entire lineage. He chose to face his enemies, to bear the consequences himself.

What does this tell us? Perhaps that true leadership means accepting responsibility, even when the cost is immense. Maybe it's a reminder that even the mightiest kings, the most beloved figures, are not exempt from the long arm of consequence. And maybe, just maybe, it suggests that sometimes, the greatest act of love is choosing to shoulder the burden ourselves, so that others don't have to.

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Bereshit Rabbah 9:5Bereshit Rabbah

It sounds shocking, I know.

The story starts with a curious discovery. In Rabbi Meir's personal Torah scroll, a peculiar reading was found in the verse “And, behold, it was very [me’od] good” (Genesis 1:31). Next to the word me’od, Rabbi Meir had written mot – death. It’s a play on words, a subtle shift in meaning that completely alters the verse. So, was Rabbi Meir suggesting that "…behold, death is good?"

Rabbi Shmuel bar Naḥman recalls hearing Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar expounding on this very idea in Rabbi Meir's name. But how can death, something readers often fear and grieve, be considered good?

Rabbi Ḥama bar Ḥanina offers one explanation: Adam, the first human, was originally meant to be immortal. But, the Holy One, blessed be He, foresaw that later generations would produce figures like Nebuchadnezzar and Ḥiram, king of Tyre, who would claim divinity for themselves. To prevent this ultimate act of hubris, Adam was penalized with mortality. As it says about Hiram in (Ezekiel 28:13), "You were in Eden, the Garden of God." Was Hiram actually in Eden? Of course not! Rather, God was saying to him: "It is you who caused the one in the Garden of Eden to die."

So, Adam's mortality, in this view, was a preemptive measure against future wickedness. It's a heavy burden to place on the first human, isn't it?

Rabbi Yonatan raises an important question: if Adam's mortality was meant to prevent wickedness, why not just decree death for the wicked themselves, instead of impacting the righteous too? The answer given is that this would prevent the wicked from feigning repentance out of self-interest. They couldn't simply accumulate mitzvot (good deeds) to avoid death if death was only for the wicked.

Then, Rabbi Yoḥanan offers another perspective. He suggests that death is "good" for the wicked because, as long as they live, they anger God. "You wearied the Lord with your words" (Malachi 2:17). But, "There anger has ceased for the wicked" (Job 3:17). In death, they stop causing offense. And for the righteous? As long as they live, they struggle against their yetzer hara, their evil inclination. Death brings them rest. "There rest those whose strength is sapped" (Job 3:17).

Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish adds that death allows for a double measure of reward for the righteous and double retribution for the wicked. The righteous, who were worthy of immortality, receive extra reward, while the wicked, who caused the righteous to accept death, face increased punishment. As (Isaiah 61:7) says, "therefore, they will inherit a double portion in their land."

It’s a complex and layered understanding of death, isn't it? Not a simple end, but a transition, a reckoning, and even, perhaps, a form of mercy. This passage from Bereshit Rabbah challenges us to reconsider our assumptions about life and death, good and evil, and the intricate ways in which they are intertwined. It invites us to see death not just as an ending, but as a part of a larger, divinely ordained plan. What do you think? Can death, in some way, be considered good?

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