It turns out, this isn't just a modern consideration. The ancient rabbis were thinking about this too!
Our story today comes from Bereshit Rabbah (Genesis Rabbah), a collection of rabbinic interpretations on the Book of Genesis. Specifically, we're looking at section 74, which unpacks a seemingly simple verse: "Jacob sent and summoned Rachel and Leah to the field, to his flocks" (Genesis 31:4).
What’s so special about where he called them?
Rabbi Shimon ben Gamliel has an interesting take. He says, "Regarding three matters, I prefer the peoples of the East." Now, that's a bold statement! What’s behind it? He explains that these Eastern peoples had refined customs. "They do not bite and eat, but rather, they cut and eat"—meaning they're civilized at the dinner table. "They cut meat only on the table"—they have proper etiquette. "They kiss only on the hand"—showing respect and restraint. And, crucially for our story, "they take counsel only in an open area."
Why the open area? Rabbi Shimon ben Gamliel connects it directly back to Jacob's choice to meet Rachel and Leah in the field. It was about transparency, about ensuring that their conversation was held in a place where secrets couldn't fester, where everyone could see and, in a sense, bear witness. An open field offers no shadows, no hidden corners for whispers to breed mistrust. It speaks to a desire for honesty and accountability. As Rabbi Shimon ben Gamliel suggests, the very act of choosing an open space implies a commitment to these values.
The text then offers a parable: "In a field in which there are mounds, do not say discreet matters." It’s almost comical, isn't it? Imagine trying to keep a secret in a lumpy field! The mounds become metaphors for potential eavesdroppers, for the risk that your words will be overheard and twisted.
So, what does this all mean for us today?
It's a reminder that context matters. Our surroundings can shape our interactions, influence our decisions, and even affect the honesty of our communication. The story suggests that choosing an open space can foster trust and transparency. It's about being mindful of the environment we create for important conversations, and considering how that environment might impact the outcome. Next time you need to have a serious conversation, maybe consider taking a walk in the park. You never know, the openness of the space might just open up the conversation in unexpected and meaningful ways.