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Jethro Sent a Letter Ahead and Three Sages Debated What It Said

Jethro sent word ahead before he arrived. God told Moses to go out and meet him. Three sages disagreed about what Jethro's message actually said.

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Table of Contents
  1. The Letter That Arrived Before the Man
  2. Three Rabbis and Three Letters
  3. Who Came Out to Meet Him
  4. Why the Welcome Mattered

The Letter That Arrived Before the Man

Before Jethro arrived in the wilderness camp of Israel, he sent a message ahead. A letter, or a messenger, or both, depending on which account you follow. He did not simply appear. He announced himself first.

That small detail generated a three-way argument among the sages of the Tanchuma tradition, compiled in the fifth or sixth century CE, because the sages understood that what Jethro wrote in the message mattered enormously. The content of the letter determined what kind of welcome he was asking for, what kind of arrival he was preparing Moses to receive, and therefore what Moses's response would reveal about how converts and fathers-in-law and the newly devoted were to be treated by the people of Israel.

Three Rabbis and Three Letters

Rabbi Joshua held that Jethro sent a neutral announcement, simply word that he was coming and that his daughter Zipporah and the children were with him. A man informing his son-in-law of a family visit. Direct, specific, unburdened by strategy.

Rabbi Eleazar of Modi'im thought the message was more layered and more human. He heard Jethro invoking his claims in sequence: do it for my sake. If not for my sake, do it for the sake of your wife. If not for her, then for the sake of your children. A man building his case in descending order of directness, invoking family obligations in stages because he is not entirely sure what kind of reception awaits him. There is something touching in this version, a man who has done a remarkable thing and does not quite trust that it will be recognized as remarkable, who lists his family as his credentials because his own conversion might not be enough.

Rabbi Eliezer offered a third reading entirely. In his version, the preparation of Moses's heart was not accomplished by any human letter at all. It was God who spoke: I am He who draws near and does not keep away. I am He who brought Jethro near. So when someone comes to convert, draw him near, do not push him away. The entire principle of how Israel was to treat those who turned toward them was stated by God directly, using Jethro as the occasion for the teaching.

Who Came Out to Meet Him

The verse in Exodus records what happened when Moses received the message. He went out to meet his father-in-law. The plain text says Moses. But the sages looked at the magnitude of the welcome and felt that the plain text was insufficient. Moses alone could not account for the honor accorded to Jethro. Who else came?

Aaron came. Nadab and Abihu came. All the elders of Israel came. A procession of leadership walked out into the wilderness to meet the priest of Midian who had heard the news of the Exodus and come. Some interpretations go further still: wherever Moses went, the divine presence accompanied him, and so when Moses went out to meet Jethro, it was not only the political and spiritual leadership of Israel walking toward him. It was the presence of the God who had sent the news that Jethro had heard and followed.

The honor accorded to Jethro was therefore not merely a courtesy extended to a father-in-law. The whole camp moved toward a man who had heard something true and turned toward it. The entire camp came out to meet a man whose qualification for the welcome was that he had heard something true and moved toward it without reservation.

Why the Welcome Mattered

Jethro's arrival was not politically neutral. He was the former chief priest of Midian. He had served every idol in the ancient world. He was an outsider by birth, by history, and by the full catalog of his religious past. And he was arriving at a camp where the people had just witnessed the greatest demonstration of divine power in recorded history. The balance of prestige ran entirely in Israel's direction.

That is precisely why the welcome mattered so much. The people who had been slaves two months earlier, who had walked through a divided sea, who were eating manna from heaven and waiting for the revelation at Sinai, those people came out of their camp to honor a man who was coming toward them. The welcome declared that the movement toward God was itself dignified, that the person in the act of turning deserved to be met on the way rather than made to arrive and prove themselves before being acknowledged.

This became a principle. It was built into the tradition by the three rabbis arguing about the letter and the one verse about who came out to meet Jethro. The way Israel received the person who was turning toward something better was not a courtesy. It was a theological act. It declared what they believed the turning was worth.


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Midrash Tanchuma, Yitro 6Midrash Tanchuma

18:1). Scripture says elsewhere in reference to this verse: The wise shall inherit honor; but as for the fools, they carry away shame (Prov. 3:35). The wise shall inherit honor refers to Jethro at the time he came to Moses. How very great, was the honor accorded him! And He said unto Moses: “I, thy father-in-law, Jethro” (Exod. 18:6). R. Joshua held that Jethro sent a messenger to inform him (of his coming). R. Eleazar of Modi’im declared: He sent him a letter stating: “Do it (welcome me) for my sake, but if not for my sake, do it for the sake of your wife, but if not for her sake, then do it for the sake of your children.”

R. Eliezer maintained that the Holy One, blessed be He, said to Moses: Moses, I am He who commanded the world to come into existence, and I am He who draws (people) near and does not keep (them away), as it is said: Am I a God near at hand, saith the Lord, and not a God afar off (Jer. 23:23); I am He who brought Jethro near and did not keep him far off, and so when a man comes to you to be converted, bring him near, do not keep him far off. Thereupon Moses went out to meet his father-in-law (Exod. 18:7). Our sages say that Moses, Aaron, Nadab, Abihu, and all the elders of Israel accompanied him. Hence it is said: The wise shall inherit honor.

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Shemot Rabbah 27:2Shemot Rabbah

The Book of Exodus gives us a powerful example in the story of Yitro, Moses' father-in-law. And the midrash (rabbinic interpretive commentary), specifically Shemot Rabbah, offers us some fascinating interpretations of this encounter.

The verse from Proverbs, "The wise will inherit honor" (Proverbs 3:35), is applied to Yitro in Shemot Rabbah. Why? Because, upon coming to Moses, he "inherited great honor." But let's rewind for a moment. How did this meeting even come about?

(Exodus 18:6) tells us, "He said to Moses: I, your father-in-law Yitro, am coming to you, [and your wife and her two sons with her]." Well, not according to all the Rabbis! Rabbi Yehoshua suggests that Yitro sent a messenger. Rabbi Eliezer takes it a step further, proposing that Yitro sent a letter, appealing to Moses' sense of duty: "Act for my sake! If not for me, then for your wife! If not for her, then for your sons!"

Rabbi Eliezer has an even more radical interpretation, one that elevates the encounter to a divine level. He suggests that the "I" in "I, your father-in-law Yitro, am coming to you" isn't Yitro at all. Instead, it's God speaking! According to this reading, God Himself is informing Moses of Yitro's impending arrival.

Think about the implications of this. God saying to Moses, "It is I who spoke and the world came into being." This echoes the idea that God is both near and far, as we find in (Jeremiah 23:23): "Am I God from near, the utterance of the Lord, [but not God from afar?]" The midrash interprets this to mean that God is the one who brings people near and the one who distances them. In this case, God is bringing Yitro near.

The message is clear: "This person who came to Me came only in the name of Heaven, and came only to convert; you too, bring him near and do not distance him." Yitro, in this interpretation, isn't just a father-in-law; he's a potential convert, someone seeking truth and connection with God. To turn him away would be to reject a divine opportunity.

So what happens? "Moses emerged to greet his father-in-law" (Exodus 18:7). But it wasn't just Moses. The Sages tell us that Aaron, Nadav and Avihu (Moses' brothers and nephews!), and seventy of the elders of Israel emerged to greet him. Some even say the Ark itself went out to meet him! This wasn't just a polite welcome; it was a full-blown demonstration of respect and honor.

And that, ultimately, is why the verse "The wise will inherit honor" is applied to Yitro. His arrival, whether orchestrated by human means or divine intervention, sparked an extraordinary display of welcome, a evidence of the transformative power of embracing the stranger.

What does this teach us? Perhaps it’s about the importance of seeing the divine spark in everyone we encounter. Maybe it’s about recognizing that welcoming someone new, especially someone seeking spiritual connection, can bring blessings beyond measure. Or perhaps it’s simply a reminder that even the smallest act of kindness can have ripple effects we can scarcely imagine.

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Legends of the Jews 4:150Legends of the Jews

The story of Moses gives us a profound glimpse into that very question.

The familiar version gives us Moses as Moshe Rabbenu, "Moses our Teacher," the one who led the Israelites out of Egypt and received the Torah on Mount Sinai. But before all that, he was just a shepherd. And that's where our story begins.

When Jethro, the priest of Midian, gave his daughter Zipporah to Moses in marriage, he wasn't just handing over his daughter. He was making a deal, a pact almost. As Ginzberg recounts in Legends of the Jews, Jethro, remembering how Jacob had left Laban with his daughters, wanted to protect himself. He said to Moses, "I know that thy father Jacob took his wives, the daughters of Laban, and went away with them against their father's will. Now take an oath that thou wilt not do the same unto me."

Moses, understanding Jethro’s concerns, swore not to leave him without his consent. And so, he stayed with Jethro, becoming a shepherd of his flocks. The future leader of a nation, tending sheep in the desert. It seems almost… humble, doesn’t it?

But it was in this very act of shepherding that God saw something special in Moses. As the text says, God never gives an exalted office to a man until He has tested him in little things. It’s a powerful idea, isn’t it? That the way we handle the small, seemingly insignificant tasks in our lives is a reflection of our capacity for greater responsibility.

Moses wasn't alone in this. David, too, was a shepherd before he became king. As the text points out, "Thus Moses and David were tried as shepherds of flocks, and only after they had proved their ability as such, He gave them dominion over men."

What does this tell us? It tells us that leadership isn't about grand gestures or innate authority. It's about caring. About responsibility. About demonstrating a capacity for empathy and diligence even when no one is watching. How you treat those you lead matters to God and to your worthiness to be a leader.

It’s a comforting thought, in a way. It means that each of us, in our own small way, is being tested, being prepared for whatever role we might be called to play. So, the next time you find yourself facing a seemingly mundane task, remember Moses and David. Remember that even in the most ordinary of circumstances, we have the opportunity to demonstrate the qualities that make a true leader. Because who knows? You might just be shepherding your way to greatness.

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Midrash Tanchuma Buber, Yitro 6:1Midrash Tanchuma Buber, Yitro

(Exodus 18:5–6:) "Now Jethro, Moses' father-in-law, came..." "And he said to Moses: I am your father-in-law..." Who said to Moses, "I am your father-in-law"? He was not able to come to Moses. What did he do? He wrote a letter and tied it to an arrow and shot it, and the arrow came to Moses. Moses read it and went out to him, as it is said: "And Moses went out to meet his father-in-law" (ibid. v. 7). He entered the camp with him. What is written? "And Aaron came, and all the elders of Israel, to eat bread" (ibid. v. 12). After they had eaten with him, he said: Give me permission, that I may go to my place. Moses said to him: "And it shall be, if you go with us, that whatever good the Lord does for us, we will do good to you" (Numbers 10:32). He said to him: I seek to go and to declare the praise of the Holy One, blessed be He, in my place. Immediately, "And Moses sent his father-in-law away..." (Exodus 18:27). And when the Holy One, blessed be He, performed miracles for Israel, they praise Him [and the nations of the world praise Him], as it is said: "[All] the kings of the earth shall give thanks to You, [O Lord,] for they have heard the words of Your mouth" (Psalms 138:4).

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Targum Pseudo-Jonathan on Exodus 18:6Targum Pseudo-Jonathan on Exodus

Few lines in the Torah are as unexpectedly tender as the one the Targum Pseudo-Jonathan preserves at the moment of Jethro's arrival. He sends a message to Moses: "I, thy father-in-law Jethro, have come to thee to be a proselyte; and if thou wilt not receive me on my own account, receive me for the sake of thy wife and of her two sons who are with her" (Exodus 18:6).

The Aramaic reading turns a plain announcement into a request, almost a prayer. Jethro does not arrive as a visiting in-law. He arrives as a candidate for conversion. "I have come to thee to be a proselyte", to become a ger, a convert who accepts the covenant.

Then the extraordinary humility: "if thou wilt not receive me on my own account, receive me for the sake of thy wife and of her two sons." The prince of Midian, priest of seven faiths, is willing to be admitted by family association if his merit alone is not enough. He leverages Zipporah, Gershom, and Eliezer because he wants to be inside the covenant more than he wants his pride.

This is the Torah's first theology of conversion: come as you are, come through whatever door is open, but come. The takeaway: the gate to covenant is wider than dignity alone. Even kings must sometimes knock through family.

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