"And Deborah, the nurse of Rebecca, died, and was buried below Bethel, in the field of the plain. And there it was told Jacob concerning the death of Rebecca his mother; and he called the name of it, The other weeping." Targum Pseudo-Jonathan (Genesis 35:8) reveals what the plain text conceals: Jacob's mother had died, and no one had told him until now.
The place-name in Hebrew is Allon Bakhut — the Oak of Weeping. The Targum renders it "the other weeping." Two griefs, one place. Deborah the nurse lay under the oak. Word of Rebecca's passing arrived at the same moment. Jacob wept twice.
Two women, one mourning
The rabbis read this verse as the Torah's quiet acknowledgment of women who shaped Israel without headlines. Deborah had come from Padan Aram with Rebecca decades earlier (Genesis 24:59). She had raised Jacob and Esau. She had lived long enough to rejoin the family now returning. Her death was itself a grief worth marking.
But buried in the same grief was the even larger loss: Jacob had never been told his mother had died. She had sent him away to Laban's house promising a short stay, and he had not seen her again. Now, beside a nurse's grave, the news came that he had already missed the chance forever.
The Torah does not narrate Rebecca's death directly. It hides her burial inside this oak. Some sorrows are too deep for the plain text; they live in the names of places.
The takeaway: every sacred place carries hidden griefs, and the names of the trees remember what the chapters do not.