"I have seen the look of your face, and it is to me as the vision of the face of your angel." Targum Pseudo-Jonathan preserves Jacob's most startling line to his brother (Genesis 33:10). He looked at Esau and saw the face of an angel.
Which angel? The rabbis read this against the backdrop of the wrestling at the Jabbok the night before. Jacob had just fought an angel who, in some traditions, was the very sar — the guardian prince — of Esau himself. Now, looking at Esau's actual face in the morning, Jacob saw the ghost of last night's opponent.
Reconciliation as recognition
This is one of the richest ideas in Jewish spiritual thought: you cannot reconcile with a person until you have wrestled with their angel. Every human being has a deeper spiritual reality, a pattern or essence that stands for them in the heavenly court. To truly meet a person is to meet that pattern, not just their surface.
Jacob wrestled Esau's angel in the dark and prevailed. The next morning, when he met Esau in the flesh, he could see past the scowl and the four hundred soldiers to the brother underneath. Esau, for his part, could see the changed man his brother had become. Both faces were transfigured.
The takeaway: seeing a person truly means seeing what they carry — not only their flesh but their angel.