It’s a theme that echoes even in the most ancient texts, like the story of Yithro, Moses’ father-in-law.
In the Book of Numbers (Bamidbar) 10:30, we find a fascinating exchange. Moses is urging Yithro to stay with the Israelites as they journey through the desert. Yithro, however, wants to return home. Moses pleads with him, saying, "I pray ('na') you, do not leave us." The Sifrei Bamidbar, a collection of ancient rabbinic interpretations, unpacks the layers of meaning behind this seemingly simple request.
The text tells us that "na" is a term of imploration, a heartfelt plea. But it goes further, suggesting Moses essentially says, "If you don't agree to stay, I decree it upon you!" A pretty strong statement, right? Why such urgency?
The Sifrei Bamidbar offers several compelling reasons. One is about perception. If Yithro leaves, the Israelites might think he only converted to Judaism hoping for land and riches, and then abandoned them when those expectations weren't met. Can you imagine the damage that could do to the fledgling Israelite community and their faith?
Another reason is even more profound. Moses argues that Yithro's departure would actually diminish God’s honor. How so? Because Yithro's presence among them was an open invitation to potential converts. The text suggests that many would seek shelter "under the wings of the Shechinah" – the Divine Presence – if Yithro, the king's father-in-law, remained. But if even he couldn't commit, what hope would others have? “If Yithro, the father-in-law of the king, did not take it upon himself (to remain with Israel), how much more so, we!”
Moses then appeals to Yithro’s unique perspective, saying, "inasmuch as you have known our camping ('chanothenu') in the desert." The Sifrei Bamidbar interprets this on a deeper level. Moses argues that Yithro has seen the miracles and wonders God performed for them. How could he possibly turn his back on that? Rabbi Yehudah even connects "chanothenu" to "chein," meaning "favor." He reminds Yithro that he witnessed the favor bestowed upon the Israelites in Egypt, as described in Exodus 12:36: "And the L-rd placed the favor of the people in the eyes of Egypt." After seeing such Divine intervention, how could Yithro just walk away?
But the most beautiful argument, perhaps, is when Moses says, "and you have been 'eyes' for us." This isn't just about physical sight. The Sifrei Bamidbar suggests that Yithro enlightened them in ways they couldn't see themselves. Remember Yithro's advice on establishing a system of judges in Exodus 18:21? The text hints that Moses already knew about this from Sinai, but the idea was credited to Yithro, highlighting his wisdom and contribution.
The Sifrei Bamidbar offers a variant interpretation: that the proselyte should be as beloved as the apple of our eye. This connects to the Torah's repeated commands to love the stranger, like in Deuteronomy 10:19 ("And you shall love the stranger") and Exodus 22:2 ("And a stranger you shall not taunt and you shall not oppress.")
So, what does this all mean? It’s a reminder that our choices have ripple effects. Yithro’s decision wasn't just about him; it impacted the entire Israelite community and their future. It speaks to the power of example, the responsibility we have to those who look to us, and the importance of embracing those who are different. It makes you wonder, doesn't it? What are we choosing to stay for? And what are we choosing to leave behind?