“If the wife of any man will stray” – that is what is written: “One who commits adultery with a woman is heartless; [he who would destroy his soul does so]” (Proverbs 6:32). “One who commits adultery with a woman” – that is what is written: “A distortion that cannot be repaired [and a lack that cannot be restored]” (Ecclesiastes 1:15). It is taught: “A distortion that cannot be repaired” – this is one who failed to recite Shema of the morning and Shema of the evening, or the Amida [prayer] of the morning or the Amida [prayer] of the evening.
“And a lack that cannot be restored” – this is one whose counterparts joined together to engage in a mitzva but he did not join with them. Another matter: “A distortion that cannot be repaired” (Ecclesiastes 1:15) – it is taught: One who did not bring the festival offering on the first day of the festival may bring the festival offering throughout the festival and on the final day of the festival.9The reference is to Sukkot, and the novel idea here is that he may bring the offering even on the eighth day, which is a separate festival.
If the festival passed and he did not bring the festival offering, he is not accountable for it. In that regard it is stated: “A distortion that cannot be repaired.” Rabbi Shimon ben Menasya says: What is, “a distortion that cannot be repaired” (Ecclesiastes 1:15)? This is one who consorted with an unmarried forbidden relative and begot a son, or consorted with a married woman even though he did not beget.
All the transgressions in the Torah have a remedy. One who steals from a person, let him return the item he stole and remedy the situation. One who robs from a person, let him return the item he robbed and remedy the situation. The same is true of one who misappropriates a deposit, and the same is true of one who withholds the wages of a hired worker.
However, one who consorts with a married woman and renders her forbidden to her husband, he is banished from the world and is gone, as he cannot repair the situation and have the wife permitted to him [to the husband] as she was initially. That is, “a distortion that cannot be repaired.” It says: “The wicked man borrows and does not repay…” (Psalms 37:21). Is there a person who borrows and does not repay where the lender does not break his teeth and collect it?
What is, “the wicked man borrows and does not repay…”? If there is a person who robs a house, a field, or money, the court removes it from his possession. However, if he consorts with a married woman, what does he pay? If he pays by giving him his wife to commit an act of harlotry with her, the result will be a world filled with mamzerim.
That is, “the wicked man borrows….” The wicked man takes a loan that he cannot repay, as he renders the woman forbidden to her husband. However, one who is righteous borrows from another only items that he gives wholeheartedly. That is why it is stated: “A distortion that cannot be repaired” (Ecclesiastes 1:15) – that he performs an action that he cannot repair.
“And a lack [veḥesron] that cannot be restored [lehimanot]” – that he is called heartless [ḥasar lev], and he will not be counted [yimaneh] in the tally of the righteous. Likewise it says: “One who commits adultery with a woman is heartless; he who would destroy his soul does so” (Proverbs 6:32). What is “heartless”? From here it is derived that a person does not go to a married woman until he is out of his mind.
Likewise it says: “Whoever is simpleminded, let him turn here; to he who lacks heart, she says to him: Stolen waters are sweet…and he does not know that the ghosts are there…” (Proverbs 9:16–18). Just as he is called simpleminded, so, the woman who commits the act of harlotry is called simpleminded, as she does not commit the act of harlotry until she is out if her mind, as, indeed, it is written: “The woman of folly clamors in simplemindedness and does not know anything…to call to the passersby” (Proverbs 9:13, 15).
Likewise, Moses alluded to her lack of judgment, as it is stated: “If the wife of any man will stray [tiste]”; tiste is written with a shin,10Tishte means, "shall go out of her mind." saying that she does not commit an act of harlotry until a spirit of folly enters her. That is, “if the wife…tiste.”