It was taught: Whoever has no wife dwells without help, as it is said, "I will make a helper corresponding to him"; without atonement, as it is said, "and he shall make atonement for himself and for his household" (Leviticus 16:6); without life, as it is said, "See life with a wife" (Ecclesiastes 9:9). "I will make him a helper" (ezer kenegdo): if he merits, she is a help (ezer); if not, she is against him (kenegdo). If he merits, she is like the wife of Hananiah ben Hakhinai; if not, like the wife of Rabbi Yose the Galilean.
Rabbi Yose the Galilean had married his sister's daughter, and she despised him. His students said to him, "Divorce her." He said, "I have nothing from which to pay her marriage settlement." They said, "We will pay the settlement." He divorced her, and she went and married the town watchman. In the end he went blind, and she would lead him by the hand begging through the streets of the town. Whenever they reached the street of Rabbi Yose the Galilean, she would stop and turn back. Since her husband knew that street well, on the first and second day he began to beat her. Rabbi Yose the Galilean went down to them at the sound of their quarrel and said, "Why are you beating her?" The man said, "Every day she deprives me of the income of this street." When Rabbi Yose the Galilean heard this, he took the two of them and settled them in one of his houses and provided for them from his own funds all the days of their lives, on account of "and do not hide yourself from your own flesh" (Isaiah 58:7).
"And the LORD God formed from the ground" (Genesis 2:19). But it is already written, "And God said, let the earth bring forth a living creature"? There it speaks of creation, and here of subduing, as in "when you besiege (tatzur) a city" (Deuteronomy 20:19) [reading va-yitzer as related to laying siege, that is, mastery].
When the Holy One, blessed be He, said He would create the human being, He took counsel with the ministering angels. He said to them, "Let us make a human." They said, "This human, what is his nature?" He said, "His wisdom is greater than yours." He brought before them beast, animal, and bird and said, "What is this one's name?" and they did not know. He passed them before Adam and said, "What is its name?" He answered, "This one's name is ox, this is donkey, this is horse, this is camel." He asked, "And you, what is your name?" He said, "It is fitting that I be called Adam, for I was created from the earth (adamah)." "And what is My name?" He said, "It is fitting that You be called the LORD, for You are Lord over all." The Holy One, blessed be He, said, "I am the LORD, that is My name, which the first man called Me."
He passed them before him again in pairs. Adam said, "Each has a mate, but I have no mate": "and for Adam no helper corresponding to him was found." And why did He not create her for him at the start? Rather, the Holy One, blessed be He, foresaw that he would in the end bring a complaint against her, so He did not create her for him until he asked for her with his own mouth.
"And the LORD God cast a deep sleep" (Genesis 2:21). When the Holy One, blessed be He, created the first man, the ministering angels erred and sought to say "Holy" before him. A parable: a king and a governor were riding in a chariot, and the townspeople wished to hail the king but did not know which one he was. What did the king do? He pushed the governor out of the chariot, and all knew that this was the governor. So too the Holy One, blessed be He, cast sleep upon Adam, and all knew that he was only a man, as it is said, "Cease from the man in whose nostrils is breath" (Isaiah 2:22).
"And the LORD God cast a deep sleep." The beginning of a fall is sleep: if a man sleeps, he does not labor in Torah; if he sleeps, he does no work. There are three deep sleeps: the sleep of slumber, "and the LORD cast a deep sleep"; the sleep of prophecy, "a deep sleep fell upon Abram" (Genesis 15:12); and the sleep of stupor, "none seeing, none knowing, none awaking, for they were all asleep, for a deep sleep from the LORD had fallen upon them." And some say also the deep sleep of folly, "for the LORD has poured upon you a spirit of deep sleep and has closed your eyes" (Isaiah 29:10). There are three faint shadows: sleep is a faint shadow of death, a dream a faint shadow of prophecy, the Sabbath a faint shadow of the world to come. And some say: the sphere of the sun is a faint shadow of the light above, the Torah a faint shadow of the wisdom above.
"And He took one of his ribs." From between his two ribs. It does not say "beneath it" here but "beneath her." From the beginning of the book until here the letter samekh is not written; once Eve was created, the Adversary (Satan) was created. If a man says to you, "It is the one that surrounds the whole land of Havilah," say to him, "Scripture speaks of rivers." "Beneath her": He made beauty for his lower part so that he would not be disgraced like a beast; He made him a lock and a covering pressed upon it so that he would not be pained when he sat; He made him cushions; He made him a grave; He made him shrouds.
A noblewoman asked Rabbi Yose, "Why by theft [was Eve taken in his sleep]?" He said to her, "A parable: if a man deposited with you an ounce of silver in secret and you returned to him a pound of gold in public, is that theft?" She said, "Then why secretly?" He said, "At first He created her for him, and he saw her and was repelled, so He removed her and created her for him a second time." She said, "I add to your words. I had been betrothed to my mother's brother, but because I grew up with him in the house I became unattractive in his eyes, and he went and married another woman not as beautiful as I."
It once happened that a certain pious man was married to a pious woman, and they had no children. They said, "We are of no use to the Holy One, blessed be He," and he divorced her. He went and married a wicked woman, and she made him wicked; and she went and married a wicked man, and she made him righteous. Thus all depends on the woman.
They asked Rabbi Yehoshua: Why does a man go out [of the womb] face downward and a woman face upward? He said, "The man looks toward the place of his creation [the earth], and the woman toward the place of her creation [the man's rib]." Why must a woman perfume herself and a man need not? He said, "Adam was created from the earth, and earth does not rot; Eve was created from bone, and if you leave flesh three days without salt it at once rots." Why does a woman's voice carry and a man's does not? He said, "If you fill a pot with meat its voice does not carry, but when you put a bone into it its voice at once carries." Why is a man easily enticed and a woman not easily enticed? He said, "Adam was created from earth; once you put a single drop of water on it, it dissolves at once; Eve was created from bone, and even if you soak it many times it does not dissolve." Why does a man court a woman and a woman not court a man? He said, "A parable: one who has lost something seeks his lost object, and his lost object does not seek him" [the man lost his rib]. Why does a man deposit seed in a woman and not a woman in a man? He said, "One who holds a deposit seeks a trustworthy person with whom to leave it." Why does a man go out bareheaded and a woman with covered head? He said, "Like one who has committed a transgression and is ashamed before people; therefore she goes out with covered head." Why do women walk first before a corpse? Because they brought death into the world. Why was the commandment of menstrual separation given to her? Because she shed the blood of the first man. Why the commandment of dough offering (challah)? Because she ruined the first man, who was the completed dough offering of the world. Why the commandment of the Sabbath lamp? Because she extinguished the soul of Adam, who is called "the lamp of the LORD is the soul of man" (Proverbs 20:27).
Caesar said to Rabban Gamliel, "Your God is a thief, for it is written, 'and the LORD cast a deep sleep upon the man' [and then stole his rib]." His daughter said to him, "Leave him to me, and I will answer him." She said, "Give me one officer." He said, "Why do you need him?" She said, "Robbers came upon us in the night and took from us a silver flask and left us a flask of gold." He said, "Would that they came upon us every day!" She said, "And was it not good for the first man, that one rib was taken from him and a maidservant like me was given to serve him?" He said, "This is my point: let Him have taken it openly." She said, "Bring me a piece of raw meat." He brought it. She put it under her armpit, then drew it out and said, "Eat." He said, "It disgusts me." "So too the man," she said, "had he taken it openly it would have disgusted him."