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Ham Saw His Father Uncovered and the Curse Outran His Sons

Two of Esau's tears ran down his face. The third stayed lodged in his eye and never fell, and Heaven measured out a payment to match it.

Curated by Arthur · Told by Maggid ·
Table of Contents
  1. The Son Who Only Looked
  2. How Much More the One Who Opens His Mouth
  3. Esau Cried Out and Heaven Wrote It Down
  4. What a Wicked Man Bought With One Commandment
  5. Who Gets Spoken to First
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The Son Who Only Looked

Noah had planted a vineyard, drunk what it gave him, and fallen asleep uncovered inside his own tent. Nobody in the world had ever seen him like that.

Ham walked in, saw him, and walked out again to tell his brothers.

He did not curse his father. He did not raise his voice or lift a hand. He looked at an old man who could not cover himself, and then he went and made it a thing to be said out loud. His two brothers took a garment between them, walked backward into the tent so their eyes stayed on the door, and let it down over him.

That was the fork. The masters counted what it cost. For seeing his father's nakedness, though he never uttered a curse, Ham and everyone descended from him have been shut out until the end of the whole world. The curse outran his sons and kept going past them.

How Much More the One Who Opens His Mouth

The Torah does not hedge about the louder crime. Anyone at all who curses his father or his mother is put to death, and the command comes twice, in Leviticus and again in Exodus, as though once were not heavy enough.

Solomon added the picture. A man who curses his father or his mother, his lamp goes out in the thick of the dark. Not smashed. Not seized. It simply stops burning while he is still standing there, and there is no one left to relight it, because the two people who lit it are the ones he cursed.

So the masters ran the argument up from Ham. If a glance did that, what does a mouth do?

Esau Cried Out and Heaven Wrote It Down

Now turn the ledger over and look at the other column, because the Holy One withholds wages from nobody, righteous or wicked, and the proof He offers is the man the tradition likes least.

Esau came in from the field with the game his father had asked for, cooked it the way Isaac liked it, and carried it to the old man's bed only to learn that the blessing had gone out the door on his brother's back an hour before. He lifted up his voice and wept.

Rabbi Eleazar counted the tears. One came from the right eye. One came from the left. The third caught in his eye and never ran down his face at all.

Heaven priced that weeping exactly. There is a verse about God feeding His people the bread of tears and giving them tears to drink by measure, and the measure written there is not three but a third, because there were never three whole tears. Two fell. One stayed.

What a Wicked Man Bought With One Commandment

Esau honored his father. Whatever else he was, he did that, and for it the Holy One handed him a life crowded with land, cattle, chiefs, and cities, all of it paid out in this world where he could hold it.

None of it was a pardon. The lamp of the wicked still goes out. There is still no future in it. But the account was settled in full before it was closed, because a commandment kept is a commandment kept even when the hands that kept it went on to do everything else they did.

Who ever came to Me first, the Holy One asks in Job, that I should owe him and not pay? Who advanced honor to his father and did not get children from Me for it?

Esau got paid. That is the uncomfortable part, and the masters put it in the record on purpose.

Who Gets Spoken to First

Rabbi Ḥiyya found the court's order of business hidden in two verses.

When honor is being handed out, you begin at the top. Moses had a terrible instruction to give on the day Aaron's two sons burned, and he gave it in order: to Aaron, then to Elazar, then to Itamar. The father first. The rank held even inside the disaster.

When disgrace is being handed out, you begin at the bottom. In the garden the Holy One turned first to the serpent, flat on the ground, and cursed it. Then to the woman. Then, last, to Adam. The sentence climbed. It did not descend.

Ham had stood at the top of a household and reached down for the smallest thing in it, an old man's uncovered body, and made a story of it. Esau had stood in a tent with nothing left to gain and still handed his father a bowl of food. Between the two of them the whole law about parents is written, and only one of them ever said a word.

Two tears ran down Esau's face and dried. The third is still in his eye.


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Midrash Tanchuma, Kedoshim 15Midrash Tanchuma

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.Townsend 1989 translation of Midrash Tanhuma, S. Buber Recension · CC-BY

(Lev. 20:9:) “For anyone whatever who curses his father or his mother shall surely be put to death.” So too is it stated (Exod. 21:17), “He who curses his father or his mother shall surely be put to death.” Solomon said (in Prov. 20:20), “[If someone] curses his father or mother, his light will go out [at the approach of darkness].” Our masters said, “Because Ham saw his father's nakedness, even though he did not utter a curse at him, he and his descendants have been alienated until the end of the whole world. How much the more so for one who does curse his father!” Scripture says (in Prov. 24:20), “For there will be no future for the evil one, the lamp of the wicked goes out.” Come and see the honoring of father and mother, how dear it is before the Holy One, blessed be He; for the Holy One, blessed be He, does not withhold the reward, either from the righteous or from the wicked. Where is it shown? From Esau the wicked. Because he honored his father, the Holy One, blessed be He, gave him all this honor. R. Eleazar says, “Esau the wicked shed three tears, [one] from his right eye, one from his left eye, and the third was attached in his eye and did not run down. When? When Isaac blessed Jacob, as stated (in Gen. 27:38), ‘and Esau lifted up his voice and wept.’” Come and see how much prosperity the Holy One gave him. Thus it is stated (in Ps. 80:6), “You have fed them the bread of tears and have had them drink a shalish of tears.” Shalosh (three) is not written but shalish (a third), because there were not three (shalosh) whole ones. So if the Holy One, blessed be He, recompensed this wicked one, because he honored his father, how much the more [will He do so] in the case of one who honors his fathers and fulfills other commandments. The Holy One, blessed be He, said (in Job 41:3), “’Who has welcomed (hiqdim) Me that I should repay him; everything under the heavens is Mine’; who is this one who has advanced (hiqdim) honor to his father, and I have not given him children?” And so it says in Job (11:5-7), “O that God would speak […]; And that He would tell you the secrets of wisdom…! ” To what is Job comparable? To whoever is put in a collare, and said, “I know what is within the palace of the king.” They said to him, “Free yourself from the collare, and we shall know that you are speaking the truth.” So also Job was clothed in seven kinds of boils and in need of alms, as stated (in (Job 19:2)1), “Have pity on me, have pity on me, O you my friends, for the hand of God has afflicted me.” And [yet] he says, “I have gotten to the bottom of the works of the Holy One, blessed be He.” Thus it is stated (in Job 23:5), “I would know words He would answer me and understand what He would say to me.” His companions said to him (in Job 11:7), “Would you discover the mystery of God…?” (Job 12:14:) “Behold, whatever He destroys will not be rebuilt, whoever He shuts in cannot be set free.” Who, after he had destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah and had overthrown them, who has rebuilt them? Who, after he is shut the ground in front of Korah and his assembly, can reopen it? No creature can fathom His works, as stated (in Eccl. 7:13), “See the work of God; for who can make straight what He has made crooked?” The Holy One, blessed be He, said, “In this world the people are afflicted because of the evil drive; but in the world to come I will remove the evil drive from them.” It is so stated (in Ezek. 36:26–27), “then I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh [and give you a heart of flesh]. And I will put My spirit within you….”

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Bereshit Rabbah 20:3Bereshit Rabbah

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.The Sefaria Midrash Rabbah, 2022 · CC-BY

Bereshit Rabbah turns to Honor Starts with the Greatest but Disgrace with the Least.

Rabbi Ḥiyya, a sage from long ago, taught a fascinating principle based on the verses in Bereshit, the Book of Genesis. He said: When it comes to bestowing honor, you start with the greatest. But when it comes to doling out disgrace, you begin with the least.

He illustrates this point beautifully. When Moses had to give instructions about a sacred matter, as we read in (Leviticus 10:6), he addressed Aaron, then Elazar, and finally Itamar. A clear hierarchy of respect.

What about when things go south? Look at the curses after the incident with the Tree of Knowledge. As it says in Genesis chapter 3, first, "The Lord God said to the serpent…" Then, "to the woman He said: I will increase your suffering and your pregnancy…" And lastly, "to Adam, He said: Because you heeded your wife’s voice…"

The order matters. The serpent gets it first, then Eve, and finally, Adam. The one who instigated the trouble, the lowest in this divine drama, receives the initial blame. You might expect God to start with Adam, the most responsible. But no, the story unfolds in this particular way.

And the Midrash, the ancient form of Biblical interpretation, doesn’t stop there. It explores the intimate lives of creatures, explaining that almost all creatures cohabit front facing back. except for two who mate back to back: the camel and the dog. But it gets even more interesting. There are three who mate face to face, because the Divine Presence, the Shekhinah (the Divine Presence), spoke to them!

These are: man, the serpent, and the fish. Wait, what?!

Man, we've already established, because God spoke to Adam. The serpent, well, "The Lord God said to the serpent.." And the fish? Remember the story of Jonah? "The Lord said to the fish, and it spewed Jonah…" (Jonah 2:11).

So, what are we to make of all this? It's more than just a quirky observation about animal behavior. It seems to be saying that even in the most basic acts of creation, communication with the Divine plays a role. The act of procreation, and even the act of punishment, are woven into the very fabric of existence.

The verses in Genesis teach us, and Bereshit Rabbah helps us to understand, that there’s an order to things, a reason behind the way the world works, even when it seems strange. And sometimes, the greatest lessons come from observing the smallest details.

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