Parshat Behar6 min read

Elimelech Fled the Famine and Died in Moab

Two widows walked the same road out of Moab. One turned back after four miles and four tears. Goliath was the payment for those four miles.

Curated by Arthur · Told by Maggid ·
Table of Contents
  1. The Prince Who Would Not Stay for the Famine
  2. Heaven Reaches for the Herds First
  3. Ten Years and Two Graves
  4. Four Miles and Four Tears
  5. The Town Was Already in the Street
  6. Boaz Buried Them
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The Prince Who Would Not Stay for the Famine

The bread ran out in Bethlehem and the whole town knew whose storehouses were still standing.

Elimelech was head of his generation, the prince of it, the man everybody looks at when the grain runs low. He looked at the harvest, counted what a long hunger would cost him, and took his wife and his two boys across the border into Moab, where the fields had not failed.

The Holy One took it badly, and said so. If My children all did what he has done, they would leave the land of Israel a wasteland.

That is the whole charge. Not that he was hungry. That he was the one man whose leaving taught everyone else where safety lives.

Heaven Reaches for the Herds First

It is a hard thing before the Holy One to put out His hand against a human being. He would rather not. So when a man sins, the first thing He reaches for is not the man. It is what the man owns.

Trouble arrives, and most people repent on the spot, and are saved, and it happens again, and they are saved again. Many times He delivered them.

Elimelech was not most people. The camels went. The cattle went. Losses a stubborn man can still file under bad weather and bad markets, and he filed them, and he stayed in Moab.

Then Scripture puts down five flat words with nothing around them. And Elimelech, Naomi's husband, died.

Ten Years and Two Graves

Mahlon and Chilion had a fresh grave in foreign ground to read, and it said go home. They did not read it that way. They married Moabite women without immersing them and without bringing them into the covenant, Orpah and Ruth, and settled in for what turned into ten years.

The Holy One spent all ten of those years warning them. When the warnings did nothing He went back to the herds, took the camels, took the cattle, and waited.

They still did not go home.

Then both sons died in the same breath of the verse, and Naomi was standing in a Moabite field with two daughters-in-law, no husband, no boys, and no property left to lose. The house that crossed the border to keep its wealth had lost the wealth and the house.

Four Miles and Four Tears

Naomi got up to go back to Bethlehem, and she did not want the young women with her.

She loved them. That is on the record. They had loved her sons well enough that neither would remarry after the burials. But she could see exactly what waits for a Moabite woman walking into Judah, the looks and the muttering and the doors, and she told them both to go back to their mothers' houses.

Orpah did not need much persuading.

She walked four miles with her mother-in-law before she stopped. Then she kissed her and turned around, and she cried four tears, and that was all of it. What she did afterward with her life was the kind of thing the tellers record without softening, and it showed the road she had chosen.

But nothing goes unpaid. Not with God, and not for her. Four miles walked beside a widow, and the wages came back as four giants out of her body, Goliath and his three brothers.

The Town Was Already in the Street

Ruth would not turn. She had decided to become a daughter of Israel, and Naomi, following the law that says you must tell a convert what she is walking into, tried to talk her out of it with the plain facts.

Sabbaths to keep. Festivals to keep. The daughters of Israel do not go to the theatres and the circuses. Every pleasure of a Moabite girlhood, listed out loud on a road at the border.

Ruth said she was ready for all of it.

"We have one Torah," Naomi said. "One law. One command. The Eternal our God is one, and there is none beside Him."

"Your people shall be my people, and your God my God."

They walked into Bethlehem on the worst possible day and the best possible day. The wife of Boaz was being buried that morning, and the entire town was already out in the street for the funeral, so there was no quiet way back in. The whole crowd turned and watched Naomi come home with nothing.

Boaz Buried Them

The kindness Boaz showed did not stop at the two living women. He took on the burial of the dead as well, and saw to it that Elimelech and both sons were laid in the ground properly, at his own expense, in a town their father had walked out on.

Later, when Naomi sent Ruth to the threshing floor washed and anointed and dressed well, Ruth carried the good clothes instead of wearing them and did not put them on until she arrived, because a woman alone on a road at night does not need to be looked at.

Elimelech never came back to see the barley. He had crossed a border to keep his household alive and lost every man in it. What came home instead was a Moabite widow with nothing, walking into a funeral crowd, carrying a line nobody had heard of yet.

He left in order to keep his family. Another man paid to bury it.


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Midrash Tanchuma Buber, Behar 8:1Midrash Tanchuma Buber, Behar

Translation of the source text.Midrash Tanchuma (Buber), Public Domain, on Sefaria · CC-BY-SA

Another interpretation (of Psalm 106:43): "Many times He delivered them." This speaks about human beings. When trouble comes upon a person, he immediately repents, and the Holy One, blessed be He, delivers him. So it is the first time and the second. If he repents, well and good; but if not, He brings trouble upon him. Why? Because it is hard before the Holy One, blessed be He, to stretch out His hand against this person. And what does He do to him? When he sins, He first stretches out His hand against his possessions.

From whom do you learn this? From Naomi and her sons and Elimelech, who was the head of the generation. When the famine came, what did he do? He abandoned the Land of Israel and went off to the land of Moab. And the Holy One, blessed be He, was angry with him, for he was the prince of the generation. The Holy One, blessed be He, said to him: "Were My children to do this, they would leave the Land of Israel a wasteland!" What is written there? "And Elimelech, Naomi's husband, died" (Ruth 1:3).

And his sons should have learned from their father to return to the Land of Israel, but what did they too do? "And they took for themselves Moabite wives" (Ruth 1:4), for they did not immerse them and did not convert them. "The name of the one was Orpah and the name of the second was Ruth" (Ruth 1:4): Orpah, because she turned her back (oref) on her mother-in-law; Ruth, because she regarded (ra'atah) the words of her mother-in-law. "And they dwelt there about ten years" (Ruth 1:4). For all those ten years the Holy One, blessed be He, was warning them. When He saw that they did not return in repentance, He began to stretch out His hand against their camels and against their cattle, but they did not return. When He saw that they did not return, immediately "the two of them also died, Mahlon and Chilion" (Ruth 1:5). Thus it is hard before the Holy One, blessed be He, to stretch out His hand against this person. And what does He do to them? He impoverishes them of their possessions, and they sell them.

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Legends of the Jews 2:30Legends of the Jews

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.The Legends of the Jews by Louis Ginzberg (1909) · Public Domain

The story of Orpah, from the Book of Ruth, makes you think about just that.

Naomi, had lost her husband and two sons in Moab. Heartbroken, she decided to return to her homeland. Her daughters-in-law, both Moabite women, wanted to go with her. But Naomi, wise and knowing, foresaw the hardship they'd face in Eretz Yisrael, the Land of Israel. As Ginzberg retells it in Legends of the Jews, she worried they'd be treated poorly simply because of where they came from.

One daughter-in-law, Orpah, was eventually persuaded to stay behind. Naomi loved her, loved both of them for the love they’d shown her sons. It couldn't have been easy for these women, widowed and far from home. But Naomi felt she was doing what was best.

The story goes that Orpah walked with Naomi for four miles before turning back. Four miles of companionship, of shared grief, of difficult goodbyes. According to the Midrash (rabbinic interpretive commentary), she shed only four tears as she left. Was that a sign? Was it a measure of her devotion?

The text suggests it was. Almost immediately after parting ways with Naomi, Orpah, as the story goes, abandoned herself to an immoral life. Ouch. Harsh. But ancient texts often use stark contrasts to make a point.

But here's where it gets interesting. Even in Orpah's story, there's a strange kind of… balance. The narrative emphasizes that nothing goes unrewarded by God. For those four miles Orpah walked with Naomi, she was "recompensed." How? By giving birth to four giants. Yes, giants. Goliath, the very same Goliath who faced David, and his three brothers. Orpah, the woman who turned away, the one who seemingly wasn't "worthy" of joining the Jewish people, is still part of the story. Her lineage, though marked by the infamous Goliath, is acknowledged. Even her small act of kindness, walking those four miles, earned her a place in the grand scheme.

What does this mean? Is it a simple cause-and-effect relationship? Probably not. But it does suggest that every action, even the seemingly insignificant ones, has consequences. That even in darkness, there can be a glimmer of light. And that even those who stray from the path might still play a role in the larger story. The legend of Orpah, as we find in Legends of the Jews, invites us to consider the complexities of reward and punishment, and the enduring power of even the smallest act of kindness.

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Legends of the Jews 2:31Legends of the Jews

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.The Legends of the Jews by Louis Ginzberg (1909) · Public Domain

Her story isn't just a sweet tale; it’s a foundation of Jewish tradition.

Ruth wasn's born Jewish. She was a Moabite princess. But her heart, it seemed, had other plans. Ruth's path crossed with Naomi, an Israelite woman who had suffered immense loss – her husband and sons had passed away while living in Moab. Naomi decided to return to her homeland, Bethlehem, and urged her daughters-in-law, including Ruth, to stay in Moab.

Ruth? She was different. Something had resonated deep within her, a connection to Naomi and her faith.

Naomi, as any good Jewish mother would, felt obligated to lay out the realities of Jewish life. As we find in the Talmud (Yevamot 47b), there's a requirement to dissuade converts, to explain the weight of the mitzvot (commandments) and the challenges of the Jewish path. It wasn't about pushing her away, but about ensuring she understood the commitment she was making.

So, Naomi warned Ruth. She spoke of the stringent observances, the Sabbaths and feast days that demanded dedication. She mentioned how Jewish women didn't partake in the kinds of amusements common in other cultures. Naomi, weary and grieving, trying to explain the intricacies of a life so different from what Ruth knew.

But Ruth remained steadfast. Undeterred. She affirmed her willingness to embrace Jewish customs, to live by Jewish law. As Ginzberg beautifully recounts in Legends of the Jews, when Naomi declared, "We have one Torah (law), one law, one command; the Eternal our God is one, there is none beside Him," Ruth responded with words that have echoed through generations: "Thy people shall be my people, thy God my God." (Ruth 1:16)

Talk about a powerful moment!

And so, the two women journeyed together to Bethlehem.

Their arrival was no accident. As fate would have it, they reached Bethlehem on the very day that Boaz's wife was being buried. The whole town was gathered. The assembled crowd witnessed Naomi's return, a homecoming filled with both sorrow and, perhaps, a glimmer of hope. Everything aligning for a reason.

And what was that reason? Well, that's a story for another time. But let's just say that Ruth's unwavering devotion and her fateful encounter with Boaz would have consequences that changed the course of Jewish history. How seemingly small decisions, acts of faith and love, can ripple outwards, shaping the destiny of nations.

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Legends of the Jews 2:33Legends of the Jews

Retold in our words. Read the original at the link below.The Legends of the Jews by Louis Ginzberg (1909) · Public Domain

Legends of the Jews turns to Boaz's Compassion.

Here's something you might have missed: Boaz's kindness extended beyond just Ruth and Naomi. The Legends of the Jews, that incredible compilation of rabbinic lore by Louis Ginzberg, tells us that Boaz also made sure that Elimelech, Naomi’s deceased husband, and their two sons, were given a proper burial. for a second. This wasn't just about helping the living; it was about honoring the dead, fulfilling a sacred obligation, a mitzvah.

Naomi? She’s watching. She’s putting the pieces together. Was Boaz’s generosity simply the act of a good man, or was there something more? Did he perhaps, harbor deeper feelings for Ruth?

Naomi being Naomi, she wasn't going to just sit around and wonder. She tried, subtly at first, to get Ruth to spill the beans. Did Boaz say anything? Give any hints? But Ruth, bless her heart, remained tight-lipped.

So, Naomi takes matters into her own hands. "Okay, Ruth," she basically says, "we're going to make something happen." She hatches a plan – a plan to, shall we say, encourage Boaz to make his intentions known. And this is where it gets really interesting.

Naomi instructs Ruth to go to the threshing floor at night, after Boaz has finished overseeing the harvest. She's to wash, anoint herself with oil, and put on her finest clothes. You know, make herself presentable. But here’s a fascinating detail: Ruth, according to Ginzberg, deviated slightly from the plan. She waited until she was at the threshing floor to doll herself up. Why?

Because she was afraid! Traveling alone at night, dressed to the nines? She feared attracting unwanted attention. It’s a small detail, but it makes Ruth so much more real, so much more human. It adds a layer of vulnerability to this powerful story. She's not just blindly following instructions; she's making choices, working through the world as best she can.

It was Ruth's combination of trust in Naomi's wisdom and her own careful choices that created the conditions for her and Boaz's love to blossom.

So, what do you think? Was Naomi right to nudge fate? Or should she have left things to chance? And how often do we, like Ruth, temper grand plans with our own fears and instincts? Maybe that's the real story here: not just a romance, but a lesson in how we navigate destiny, one small, brave step at a time.

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