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The Rider Nobody Steers and the Mother Who Did

Avimelech woke sweating from a dream and discovered his own desire was on God's leash. Rebecca sent Jacob for two kids and seeded Yom Kippur.

Curated by Arthur · Told by Maggid ·
Table of Contents
  1. The King Who Reached and Could Not Move
  2. Your Evil Inclination Belongs to Me
  3. Two Goat Kids and the Day That Will Come
  4. The Actors Who Were Not Acting Alone

The King Who Reached and Could Not Move

Avimelech, king of Gerar, had taken Sarah into his house. He believed she was Abraham's sister. He had not touched her. Then God came to him in a dream and told him something that should have stopped his heart: I knew you did this with a pure heart, and I was the one who held you back from sinning against Me. That is why I did not let you touch her.

Avimelech woke up sweating and ran to find Abraham at first light. The Torah reports his terror and moves on. The rabbis in Bereshit Rabbah will not let it go.

Your Evil Inclination Belongs to Me

Rabbi Yitzchak stops at two Hebrew words: meḥato li, usually translated as from sinning against Me. He twists the vowels. He reads maḥaton li. Your evil inclination is Mine. Not yours. Mine.

That is a startling thing to say about a Philistine king who had never entered the covenant. But the reading is precise. The pull Avimelech felt toward Sarah's tent was not his to control. God was holding the leash. Avimelech rode toward the wrong door and found he could not open it, not because his will failed him, but because his will was not the last word on what his body would do.

The Midrash gives this teaching an image. Picture a warrior on horseback at full gallop. A bystander at the side of the road reaches out and grabs the bridle. The horse jerks to a halt. The warrior's legs still kick. His intention still points forward. But he is not going anywhere. The hand on the bridle is God's hand. Avimelech was a rider who discovered mid-charge that someone else had always been holding the reins.

Two Goat Kids and the Day That Will Come

Rebecca's scene runs at a different tempo. She calls Jacob and tells him to bring her two choice goat kids from the flock so she can prepare the food his father loves. Two animals for one old man's supper.

Bereshit Rabbah 65 cannot leave that number alone. Why two? Isaac has one belly. One animal was enough for a meal. Two animals, the rabbis say, is a strange quantity, and strange quantities in the Torah are rarely accidents.

The answer they arrive at crosses centuries. One goat became the Passover offering. The second became the Yom Kippur scapegoat. Rebecca sent her son to the flock for dinner and came back with the entire architecture of the Jewish calendar. She did not know it. She was feeding a blind man. But the two animals she asked for were already designated before she spoke, and the ritual year was already hanging on them before the festival was named.

The Actors Who Were Not Acting Alone

Bereshit Rabbah sets these two passages beside each other because they share the same argument in different keys. Avimelech believed he was acting. He was not; God held his desire by a cord. Rebecca believed she was cooking. She was not; she was commissioning two of the most consequential animals in Israelite memory. In both scenes, the person doing the thing is the instrument, not the author, of what happens.

This is not a teaching about passivity. Avimelech still had to be stopped. Rebecca still had to send Jacob. The actions were real. The outcomes, though, arrived from a direction neither actor was watching. The rabbis who kept reading these verses past the obvious surface were reading a world in which human hands moved and divine purpose steered, and the two were never the same hand.


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Bereshit Rabbah 65:14Bereshit Rabbah

The story of Jacob and Esau, and their mother Rebecca, is definitely one for the ages. It's a story ripe with sibling rivalry, parental favoritism, and a mother's desperate attempt to secure her favored son's future. to Bereshit Rabbah 65, a section of the ancient Midrash, which expands on the biblical narrative in Genesis 27. Remember the scene? Isaac, old and blind, asks his son Esau to bring him game so he can bless him before he dies. But Rebecca overhears, and well, she has other plans.

"Rebecca said to Jacob her son, saying: Behold, I heard your father speak to Esau your brother, saying, 'Bring me game, and prepare me tasty food and I will eat, and I will bless you before the Lord before my death.' Now, my son, heed my voice to what I am commanding you. Go now to the flock, and take for me from there two fine goat kids, and I will make of them tasty food for your father, like that he likes." (Genesis 27:6-9)

What's going on here? It's more than just a cooking lesson. Rabbi Levi, in Bereshit Rabbah, sees a deeper meaning. When Rebecca tells Jacob to "go and see to the flock," Rabbi Levi suggests she's actually urging him to look after the advancement of the nation of Israel, who are themselves likened to a flock. Think of the verse in (Ezekiel 34:31), "You are My flock, flock of My pasture." It's not just about goats; it's about the future of a people.

What about those "two fine goat kids"? Rabbi Levi has an interesting take on that, too. He suggests that Rebecca is telling Jacob, "If you can find suitable goats, great! But if not, take them from my dowry." Apparently, Isaac had promised to provide her with two goats every single day!

But Rabbi Helbo sees something even more profound in the word "tovim" – "fine" or "good." He says that these goats are "good" for Jacob because they will help him secure the blessings. And they are "good" for his descendants, because through them, they will gain atonement on Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. Remember the two goats offered on Yom Kippur? One sacrificed, the other sent away into the wilderness? As (Leviticus 16:30) says, "For on this day he shall atone…" The two goats are a direct parallel.

So, what does it all mean? This seemingly simple act of acquiring two goats becomes a pivotal moment, foreshadowing the future of the Jewish people. Rebecca, in her manipulation, is not just securing a blessing for her son; she is ensuring the continuity and atonement of generations to come. It's a heavy burden, a complex legacy, all wrapped up in a mother's love and a bowl of tasty, well-disguised goat stew.

Isn't it amazing how much can be hidden beneath the surface of a seemingly straightforward story? How the simple act of choosing two goats can echo through the ages? It makes you wonder what seemingly small decisions we make today might ripple into the future in ways we can't even imagine.

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Bereshit Rabbah 52:7Bereshit Rabbah

The Torah portion Vayera, and specifically (Genesis 20:6), offers a fascinating take on this. God speaks to Avimelech, king of Gerar, in a dream after Avimelech takes Sarah, Abraham's wife, into his house, unaware that she is married. God says, "I, too, knew that in the innocence of your heart you did this, and I also prevented you from sinning against Me. Therefore, I did not allow you to touch her."

Seems straightforward. God intervened. But the Rabbis of the Midrash (rabbinic interpretive commentary), those brilliant interpreters of our tradition, dive deeper. Bereshit Rabbah, a classic collection of rabbinic interpretations of Genesis, unlocks something truly profound here.

Rabbi Yitzchak offers a stunning reading of the Hebrew phrase "meḥato li," meaning "from sinning against Me." He doesn't just see it as "against Me." Instead, he interprets "meḥato li" to mean "your evil inclination [maḥaton] is Mine [li]." Your yetzer hara (the evil inclination), that inner voice pushing you towards temptation, towards the less-than-ideal choice? God says, "That's Mine. It is under My complete control."

The Midrash then offers an analogy. Imagine a warrior riding a horse. The horse is galloping, full of energy, ready to run. But the warrior sees a baby on the ground and skillfully guides the horse, averting tragedy. Who gets the credit? The horse, just doing what it's trained to do? Or the rider, the one with the control, the foresight, the wisdom to change course?

Of course, it's the rider.

So, too, says the Midrash. "Therefore, I did not allow you to touch her – your maḥaton is Mine," meaning, your evil inclination, which causes you to sin [maḥti], that corrupts you, is given over into My hand. It is I who prevented you from sinning. I drew you away from sin. The praise is Mine and not yours."

It's a radical idea, isn't it? That even our temptations, our struggles, are ultimately within God's purview. That the times we don't give in aren't solely due to our own strength, but perhaps a divine hand gently guiding us, redirecting our energy.

As the Zohar, that foundational text of Kabbalah, so often reminds us, everything is interconnected. Nothing is truly separate from the divine.

It makes you wonder, doesn't it? About the unseen forces at play in our lives. About the moments of grace we might not even recognize. About the possibility that even our darkest impulses can be channeled, redirected, and ultimately, used for good. Perhaps our task isn't to eliminate the "horse" entirely, but to trust that the "rider" – that spark of the divine within us and around us – can guide it towards a more compassionate, more righteous path.

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